At 44 years old, Michael DiPiano, Sr. had indeed entered the cross roads. With his health deteriorating because of diabetes, the Nutley native was on dialysis for kidney failure and had been read his Last Rites. He was a devoted husband and father of three, a well known wrestling coach and athletic director in New Jersey. But now, his life was seemingly coming to an end.
That was 21 years ago. Today, DiPiano (Big D to his friends) is beginning the 65th year of his life. What changed the course for this man?
“The greatest gift of all,” DiPiano said with a smile. “I’ll never be able to repay that gift.”
The gift was an organ transplant. In DiPiano’s case, it meant a new lease on life, after receiving a kidney and pancreas on Oct. 25, 1998. The organs were donated by a man we’ll know simply as Sean, a 21-year-old who, on Oct. 24, 1998, was killed in an automobile accident. Sean had indicated on his driver’s license that he wanted to be an organ donor in the event of his death.
DiPiano had never meant Sean, but he lives life every day with the constant reminder that Sean is indeed a part of him.
“Back in 1995, I was told I would need a double transplant because of a nearly 30-year battle with diabetes,” DiPiano recalled. “I remember a year later, I was at the Olympics in Atlanta and I was told to get to a hospital right away. My sugar was high but I thought I’d be okay. Later that summer, when I was back home, I was rushed to St. Michael’s Hospital and got so sick that (St. Benedict’s Headmaster) Father Edwin (Leahy) read my Last Rites, and they were already planning my funeral at St. Benedict’s.”
Mike DiPiano Sr. (right) with Delbarton wrestling coach Bryan Stoll (left) and state champion Guy Russo of West Essex at the Gift of Life Duals in 2012.
At that time, Dr. Leon Smith stepped in, through a contact of Fr. Leahy’s. A renowned Internist who specializes in infectious diseases, he assessed DiPiano’s condition. “Whatever he did, he took me from a five to 10 percent chance of surviving,” DiPiano recalled. “He saved my life, because even Father Edwin said ‘if he can get to 10 percent, he’ll make it.’”
Having administered the last rites to DiPiano, Fr. Leahy knew a higher power was looking out for DiPiano.
“If it weren’t for Dr. Smith and the Grace of God, we would have lost him a long time ago,” Fr. Leahy said. “He went from a 5 percent chance of survival to the poster child for organ transplant. It’s a great overall story.”
DiPiano’s new lease on life will be recounted at the sixth annual Gift of Life Wrestling Duals, set for this Saturday, Jan. 16, at Nutley High School. With a wrestling theme of ‘Organ Donation is a Major Decision’ as the backdrop, there will be six teams competing, including the host school, Nutley, which is now coached by DiPiano’s eldest son, Mike.
The other teams participating are Demarest, Union City, St. Benedict’s, Robbinsville and Garfield.
Mike DiPiano and youngest son, Frank, after Nutley won the 2012 Essex County Tournament championship for the first time in school history. Frank recently stepped down as Nutley’s head coach, after a marvelous run, and is now an administrator at his high school alma mater, St. Benedict’s, in Newark.
Wrestling begins at 9:30 a.m., and continues with matches at 11 a.m. and 12:30 p.m. After a break, DiPiano will speak to the crowd, telling his story and the importance of organ donation, at 2:30 p.m. Following that, wrestling resumes with third and fifth place matches, followed by the championship match, commencing at about 4:30 p.m.
This year marks the return of the Duals to Nutley, after a few years at Demarest, where the younger Mike DiPiano had coached, before coming to Nutley this season to succeed younger brother, Frank, as head coach, after Frank received a wonderful opportunity to work at St. Benedict’s, in an administrative capacity. (More on Frank’s new work can be read here. https://mikelamberti.wordpress.com/2015/11/18/frank-dipiano-to-begin-a-new-chapter-in-professional-life-leaves-nutley-wrestling-returns-home-to-st-benedicts/)
The success of the duals, since 2011, speaks for itself, mainly through awareness.
“We have had people who attended, over the years, become organ donors, which is a major reason for having the Duals,” said DiPiano. Also, some people have actually donated organs (thanks to the event), as well as become donors after hearing me speak at an event.”
The elder DiPiano’s association with St. Benedict’s Preparatory School in Newark is legendary. As the wrestling coach there, he amassed a record of 274-89, and was named the state’s Coach of the Year by the Star-Ledger in 1987. He is a member of the St. Benedict’s Hall of Fame, as well as the USA Wrestling Hall of Fame in Stillwater, Oklahoma. After coaching at St. Benedict’s, DiPiano became the school’s athletic director. Now retired as the A.D., he remains associated with the school.
In May of 2011, DiPiano received the school’s highest honor to a Lay person, the Medal of St. Benedict’s.
“Mike DiPiano helped build this place,” Fr. Leahy said. “He must have held a thousand different positions here. He was the spine of the school.”
Mike DiPiano Sr. along with sons, Michael (left) and Frank.
DiPiano’s family, wife Karen, daughter Michelle and his sons had never given up on the rock of the family beating any kind of odds.
“My kids were incredible during the toughest times,” Karen DiPiano recalled. “We’re a close family and everyone took a part in being there for him. We all believed he’d get better.”
DiPiano was on dialysis for nearly two years, and at the top of the list for a transplant, before fate intervened in October, 1998.
“Back then, everyone used beepers to keep in touch,” DiPiano said. “I’m out with a friend and the beeper goes off, and I thought it was his. But he looked at me, and said ‘no, it’s yours’. That beeper was there only to inform me of a possible transplant match, so when I returned the call, I knew things would be happening quickly.”
When DiPiano was informed that there was a match for his kidney and pancreas, there was little time to get to know who the donor was. The surgery was scheduled for Oct. 25, 1998, a date which is clearly evident on Michael’s right arm in the form of a tattoo.
The tattoo on DiPiano’s arm, honoring Sean.
“The surgery lasted about eight hours,” DiPiano recalled. “I was in the hospital about seven days. The biggest concern after a transplant is that the body could reject it, but everything went well. I could tell pretty quickly how much better I was feeling. I don’t think I really knew how sick I was until after the transplant.”
DiPiano actually has three kidneys now. “They don’t remove the old kidneys, they kind of stored them in my body,” he said with a laugh. “The one working kidney is in the normal place.”
With a new pancreas, DiPiano’s diabetes is no longer the concern it once was. With his blood sugar near normal, he doesn’t need to take insulin, but is careful with his diet.
As his health improved, DiPiano returned to work at St. Benedict’s in January of 1999. “I might have gone back a little too early,” he said, “but I felt like I was ready.”
He also wanted to know more about Sean.
“Normally, the process with a donor is that it’s anonymous,” DiPiano said. “I have gotten to communicate with Sean’s mother through E-mail, and while I’ve never met her, I hope to one day.”
DiPiano’s passion is talking about the importance of organ donation. He has been to numerous high schools in New Jersey, where he usually begins by showing a film clip about Jason Ray, the 21-year-old mascot for the University of North Carolina basketball team who was struck by a car and killed in 2007 while walking to a diner on Route 4 in Ft. Lee. (Lee was there because the basketball team was in New Jersey for the NCAA Eastern Regional).
“Jason was a organ donor, and that film really has an impact on the kids,” DiPiano said. “It goes on to show the many people Jason saved by being a donor. It’s very emotional.”
On the surface, DiPiano is a hard-nosed individual, a man’s-man who takes no prisoners, so to speak. But he has no problems expressing his emotions on this subject. He recalls attending the first Transplant Games, for those athletes who are recipients of organ donation, in Minnesota eight years ago.
“When I went to the first Transplant Games, it was such an overwhelming feeling for me,” DiPiano, his eyes welling, recalled. “That’s when I had the tattoo made, to honor Sean, the date of my transplant, as well as the initials of a very close friend, Peter Kupczak.”
DiPiano’s message has resonated well in New Jersey, where the theme of Saturday’s tournament will focus on the need for people to be organ donors.
Michael Sr. has been to numerous Transplant Games since 1998, both in the United States and abroad, including Thailand and Australia. DiPiano has competed in athletic events at the games. He speaks constantly on the need to be an organ donor. He is very much involved with the work of the National Kidney Foundation, as well as the New Jersey Sharing Network, which procures tissues and organs.
“Over 125,000 people are waiting for an organ donation of some sort,” DiPiano said. “Twenty five die, waiting, each day. It is truly amazing what medical science can do when someone gets a new lease on life with a heart, lung, pancreas, kidney or liver. It’s amazing.”
Mike DiPiano is indeed an amazing man. He thanks his family, his friends and loved ones for the constant support. And he remembers a young man named Sean.“I’ll never be able to thank him enough,” DiPiano said.
“I just hope I can meet his mom one day and tell her that.”
Mike DiPiano, Sr., hosts a Christmas party every year at St. Barnabas Medical Center in Livingston for children who have had, or will be receiving, an organ transplant. He’s here with his reliable ‘Elves’.